My friend Mikkel asked me the other day on facebook: ”How are you doing over there?” “Great!!” I answered. “Kind people everywhere, splendid nature, good beers… And nice guys!” “Uh oh, nice guys, huh? That sounds interesting 😉 “ Really, the guys I’ve met here are nice. Really nice! Funny, humoristic, curious, kind. Some are into nature, some are into religion, some are into theater and dancing. And the Nicaraguan guys are really good looking, too! 😉 It made me think a little. What about the Nicaraguan girls? Well, when it comes down to it, I haven’t really met any. In Matagalpa there were the Spanish teachers of course. Really nice girls (women!), so cool, but they don’t really count. We had a professional relationship, friendly and all, but not as friends. In El Tigre there weren’t any girls in my family. My sister is two years old, and even though my mother is 22 we didn’t really develop a friend-like relationship. I guess we just are at two quite different stages in our lives. The other girls, ladies, I met in the village were friendly, sure, but we didn’t really have any occasion to chat, in opposition to the boys, with whom I got to talk building the office and playing soccer. And besides, if I did have a sister my age in my family I probably wouldn’t have enjoyed painting my fingernails in their company as much as the other girls in the group did. Here in Leon I simply haven’t met any. The theater group with, whom we are working, consists of ten boys and only three girls. Having a conversation with one of the girls I asked her why so few girls are in the group. “Well” she said, “knowing there are mainly boys in the theater groups many mothers don’t feel secure sending their girls over there. And since a lot of the pieces are presented in the night time, it’s basically a no-go. You know, girls in Nicaragua in the age of 17 to 22 years old, living at home, simply don’t have as many possibilities, as many rights, as boys do.”
I guess her answer applies to every layer of the Nicaraguan society. Girls simply don’t have as much freedom, as much spare time as the boys do. Sure, girls do go out and have fun, but not as much, not in the same way. And less when living in the countryside than in town. Religion plays a big part too, deciding of the dos and don’ts.
So yeah, conclusion is that I have gotten a bunch of new friends, guys all of them. Sure my appealing and rather charming appearence and mentality has played a role, but clearly culture has as well.
And I guess this simply is one of many differences between DK and Nicaragua.